Saturday, July 4, 2009

The Declaration of Independence and the Fight for Sexual Relationship Freedom

On this day of celebration of freedom in the United States, I received this inspiring video from a friend. It is excellent and worthy of 15 minutes of our time on Independence Day. In it, the actor Morgan Freeman sets the stage by describing the setting and circumstances in which the Declaration of Independence was prepared, signed and publicized. He then introduces a large and diverse group of our finest actors, from Kathy Bates to Mel Gibson to Kevin Spacey to Whoopie Goldberg, who then read the Declaration of Independence. Yes, it is patriotically inspiring, but I am also inspired by the words of the document in that they remind me of our duty to resist that which oppresses us.

I resist the tyranny of a one-size-fits-all standard of sexual loving relationship. I also resist the negativity that taints our views about ourselves as sexual beings. I will continue to resist until the day comes when resistance is no longer necessary. And I hope I will see the day when those whose preferred form of consenting adult romantic relationship and/or sexual expression does not subject them to the tyranny and oppression of those who believe that their way is the only way. Therein lies our ongoing struggle.

I am but one of a large and growing number of leaders who carry on this fight. Yet the fight is also being carried out by all of those who live their lives according to how they self-identify, oppression notwithstanding. Simply by having the courage to live a life authentic to who we are, we carry on the struggle for sexual relationship freedom. We are to be congratulated for doing so.

I wish you a happy, meaning-filled Independence Day. May it be grounded not just in patriotism but also in the fight for freedom of consenting adults to discover and to practice the intimate relationship structure and mode of sexual expression that best meets their emotional and human needs free of governmental, societal or institutional coercion or favoritism.


Natasha Yar-Routh said...

A very inspiring manifesto for this Independence Day. We are and will probably remain a minority but we still deserve the right to live and love as we want to. As a gender queer pansexual androgyne I salute you.

Anita Wagner said...

Thank you, Natasha. Congrats on living your life in a way that is authentic for you.

AprilSays said...

I loved reading your thoughts on Independence Day.. It truly is about independence in all forms so long as we are not harming others (which is, admittedly, a very gray area)..

As a Woman who has publicly written about her journey, I say thank you. :) The more we talk about things and listen, the more we can learn how to live cooperatively.

Anita Wagner said...

My pleasure, April. I very much appreciate your kind words.

MCT said...

So many people take our hard-fought freedom for granted. Thank you for posting this great reminder. Feel free to peruse my blog on my adventures in polyamory at Thanks!