Author and Village Voice columnist Tristan Taormino has launched a brand new website in anticipation of the release of her new book May 1. OpeningUp.net is a website for people interested in open relationships of all kinds, including monogamy with benefits, nonmonogamy, partnered nonmonogamy, swigning, polyamory, polyfidelity, solo polyamory, mixed orientation marriages, and other relationships styles beyond monogamy. It features a blog, an extensive resource guide, message boards, and the Open List, a list of professionals (therapists, social workers, psychiatrists, psychologists, consultants, relationship and life coaches, doctors, lawyers, etc.) who are experienced and knowledgeable about alternative sexuality, lifestyles, and relationships. Check it out!
4 comments:
WOW! The message boards are awesome! She has a forum for mono/poly relationships! It is so... SO hard to find resources for that. Thank you.
My favorite concept from the book is the state of being in "theoretical non-monogamy" (where a couple decides it is ok to be non-monogamous, but for whatever reasons has not gotten around to having any outside partners yet). This totally makes sense to me and has been a key to the success of my 15 year marriage. We did not remain theoretical for long, but even then we were not jealous because we'd opened up already.
Yes, many people identify as poly but aren't actually having more than one relationship at a given time for whatever reason. To my primary, Tim, and me, having the option makes a huge difference, and I think this is so for many others. The freedom is the thing - we don't have to end up feeling trapped, resentful and frustrated if we get to feeling hemmed in or we meet someone we really connect with. But we also are very happy together. We are "having our cake and eating it too", and it works for us just fine. No one is being hurt.
Scott, that's my favorite part as well. My husband & I spent a great many years "open to the idea" but not having great success finding suitable partners. It was difficult to explain to some of our poly friends but we wanted to hold out for something special :-)
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