Friday, March 8, 2013

Fits and Starts with lots of Pinterest

You may have noticed that I've not been putting up much new content here lately.  One reason is that there is so much going on in our growing larger poly community with more and more people covering it that what I think or focus on is less necessary.  Another is that my off-line life requires and will continue to require for a while more of my time and energy.  And then there is my Pinterest obsession, which at least includes a polyamory board.

So consider me to be on a semi- or mini-sabbatical.  I'm still here, still welcome comments to existing entries here, and I'm still giving workshops and posting to Facebook and Twitter.  I have elected in the past not to automatically cross-post Facebook status updates and/or Tweets here, but I'm thinking I may begin doing so in order to give followers one place to find out what I am focusing on these days.

I'm so happy to say that we have many wonderful newcomers to the world of polyamory advocacy and education.  And believe me, there is still plenty of need for this.  If nothing else I may need to start a "Dear Anita" column, so often do I receive pleas for advice from those who struggle with their relationship issues.  But their stories also tend to include highly sensitive information, and confidentiality is of paramount importance. 

Please take a moment to check out my blogroll in the right column here for some interesting newcomers with fresh perspectives, as well as links to veterans who are still making a huge contribution.  I welcome suggestions for additions, including your own link to your own content, and I also welcome a head-up if you find a dead link.

Interest in polyamory is still growing, and there is a lot of bad polyamory being practiced out there.  There is also a lot of bad advice in certain fora, so don't believe everything you read about what constitutes ethical non-monogamy.  If it sounds fishy, especially in a self-serving, non-egalitarian sort of way, it probably is, so be cautious as to who you get involved with and/or whose advice you decide to take.  


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I’ve been doing some experimenting with my relationships recently and one thing I’ve found is that straight up communication isn’t that effective. When I say communication, I mean sitting down and talking face-to-face.

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Anita Wagner Illig said...

Well, if conflict exists it won't be resolved without effective communication, but it is not a guarantee in and of itself. Compromise is another essential, as are good communication skills. Bad ones can definitely do more harm than good.

Anita Wagner Illig said...

P.S. Would love to hear about what *does* work for you and your partner(s). :)

FunLoveGoodSex said...

I know what you mean about life getting in the way. Real life. But it sounds like you are also pretty busy on the more social areas of the net which makes absolute sense - I imagine polyamorists are generally pretty social (and I find blogs are a bit quiet in that respect).

Anyway, I just stumbled across your blog, then skipped over to your site and jumped over to some other sites and have spent the last little while reading about polyamory. Interesting stuff. I love that it is all about love (or at least that's what I'm getting from what I read). I just wanted to say hi and keep up the good work bringing (I hope) more love to more people!

Anita Wagner Illig said...

Why thanks, doing my best. My plan is to re-energizing the blog yet this year. And so much has been happening around same sex marriage that is also putting polyamory in the spotlight. My work lately has been a lot more with the media and not so much as to teaching classes, thought I dearly love to do that and will return to it at some point.