I'm a lucky polygirl. Two weekends in a row I've attended fabulous events designed with poly people in mind. You've perhaps read my last blog post about the LovingMore East Coast Retreat. This time I am happy to report on Fifth Annual Dark Odyssey Summer Camp.
Whereas the LovingMore conference's energy is very warm and loving, the energy at DO is much more raucous. Yet both conferences are quite radical in their own way. In the case of DO, wow! For a sex-positive person, DO continues to set the standard as the ideal setting for sexual self-expression and to indulge that fantasy you've always wanted to role play in a safe, welcoming, sensual and electrifying environment. If you're a kinky person, there's a huge dungeon. If you're into swinging and/or public sex, there's the Sex-O-Rama. On one night it was transformed into the "Garden of Carnal Delights" which included a brothel with play money to negotiate with, plus a peep show, where you could go behind the glass and see what it's like to be a sex worker in that line of work.
There were lessons on BJs and stripping from sexual dynamo Nina Hartley (who T and I had the pleasure of being cabinmates with - woohoo!) There were lots of classes on all kinds of kinks. As a basically vanilla poly person, I was certainly engaged - there was lots to do for polyfolk. Though a lot of attendees make play dates with friends old and new, it's perfectly fine to go there and never have sex, or do it only with your sweetie(s). What matters is that you only do that with which you are comfortable and only with other consenting adults, or just yourself. Some people come for the show, soak up that sexy energy and take it back home to energize their personal sex lives. And quite a show it is. (Don't even get me started on the f***ing machines show!)
Programs particularly appealing to polyfolk were:
The Art of Partnership: Creating Partnership within Relationship by Cuddle Party co-creator Marcia Baczynski
Designing your Poly Lifestyle by polycoaches Jon and Carin
Ethical Sluts: How to Do Polyamory Well and Thoroughly by Ethical Slut co-author Dossie Easton
Making Poly/Mono Relationships Work by Cuddle Party mavens ReID Mahalko and Marcia Baczynski
Making Your Move: a Flirting Class by Bear and Bobbie
The Tantric Erogenous Zones (Kama Marmas) by Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson
(To Be or Not to Be) Monogamous by Helen Boyd
Uneven Libidos: When Your Partner Isn't as Sexual as You by Helen Boyd
Urban Tantra: Tantric Connections for Couples by Barbara Carrellas
Bridging Romantic Differences also by Cuddle Party co-creator ReID Mahalko
Sandbox Explorations by Michelle Zee (a/k/a Abundant Michael)
So, polyfolk, don't be shy! Come to DO:Winter Fire - 2008 (a hotel convention in Washington, DC) March 21-24, 2008. Get the latest info on DO events by signing up for e-mail announcements - send an e-mail requesting same to info@darkodyssey.com
Monogamy works well for some but not others. Social status, religion, race, sexual orientation, and political philosophy don’t matter. Honesty, openness, love, commitment, communication, patience, and egalitarianism do. Here I pass along what I’ve learned and teach at events on common challenges polyamorists encounter and their practical remedies, along with thoughts on related subjects such as community organizing, activism, and sexual freedom. Feel free to comment – and welcome!
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I love Dark Odyssey, too!
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